Erica Lemke, MA, CSC, ABS
Board-Certified Clinical Sexologist | Certified Sex & Relationship Coach | Author | Speaker
I help women and couples feel more connected to themselves, their bodies, and one another through evidence-based education, compassionate coaching, and practical strategies for intimacy, pleasure, relationships, and sexual wellbeing.
As a Board-Certified Clinical Sexologist and Certified Sex & Relationship Coach, I specialize in supporting women through midlife, perimenopause, and menopause, as well as individuals and couples navigating changes in desire, painful sex, intimacy concerns, body confidence, communication challenges, relationship transitions, and differences in sexual desire.
Many of the people I work with come to me saying things like, “I don’t feel like myself anymore,” “I’m stuck in my head,” “I love my partner, but we feel disconnected,” or “I want to enjoy sex again, but I don’t know where to begin.” My role is not to tell you how your sexuality or relationship should look. It is to help you better understand what is happening, identify what matters to you, and build the skills, confidence, and self-awareness to create meaningful change.
My approach blends clinical sexology, relationship coaching, mindfulness, nervous system regulation, embodiment, sexual health education, and practical skill-building. Together, we may explore desire, arousal, pleasure, communication, sexual scripts, body image, menopause-related changes, painful intercourse, relationship patterns, or simply how to feel more present and at home in your body.
I hold a Master of Arts in Community Counseling with an emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy and completed advanced training in clinical sexology through Sex Coach University under Dr. Patti Britton. I have also completed Executive Education in Women’s Health and Wellness through Harvard Medical School and currently serve on the Education Committee for the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH), where I stay engaged with emerging research and evidence-based practices in women’s sexual health.
In addition to my private practice, I coach through Maven Clinic, supporting individuals and couples through fertility, pregnancy, postpartum, perimenopause, menopause, and other life transitions as part of an interdisciplinary care team.
I am the author of Feel Sexy Again and Pressing RESET for a Sensual Midlife. My work has also been featured in Cosmopolitan and on The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives.
Clients often describe my style as warm, approachable, practical, and encouraging. I believe some of the most meaningful change happens when curiosity replaces shame, evidence replaces outdated myths, and we begin listening to the body rather than fighting against it.
You do not have to become someone new to experience greater intimacy, confidence, or pleasure. Sometimes the work is simply learning how to come home to yourself again.
Pleasure isn’t a luxury. It’s a practice.
